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Focus
on doing. When you demonstrate caring for yourself and
others, you are engaged in coping. It is important to express
feelings, but coping is also about learning, thinking, and
doing.
Limit further exposure to trauma.
For younger children, turn off the television during the news.
Set aside some time to look at newspaper stories and photographs
and answer questions. For older children, watch the news together.
Change channels if you feel the media coverage is not constructive.
Talk about what you see while you are watching and after you
turn it off.
Address concerns about safety.
Children will be assured by knowing the steps authorities
are taking to protect the public. Explain in concrete terms
how our leaders are working together to restore normalcy and
increase security. Be honest and calm about risk; don't promise
that nothing like this will happen again. Explain that most
of us will live long and grow old. Reassure children that
you will do everything in your power to protect them.
Specific
strategies for children with cognitive disabilities
Speak at the child's language level, giving short explanations.
Abstract terms may lead to misconceptions. Expect and
correct misunderstandings. Repeat your responses patiently.
Use clear examples and repeat yourself as needed. Gently and
carefully repeat correct information and be sure the child
grasps what you mean.
Check the child's understanding.
Ask about what children are thinking and feeling. Encourage
them to draw pictures if they are able. Draw, paint, or color
with them. Provide choices of emotions they may be experiencing.
Use pictures that represent "sad" or "upset"
if they are not good at expressing themselves with words.
Use pictures and talk together.
Show photos of recovery operations. Tell them how the firefighter
or police officer pictured is helping. Talk about television
and newspaper coverage.
Children may have questions
about these events and ask them repetitively, or may want
to talk about aspects of the tragedy that may seem irrelevant
or insensitive. If an attempt to redirect the child does not
work, try to structure or contain the conversation. Provide
times and places for the child to discuss the topic with you.
Give the child guidelines for talking to others.
Some children with cognitive
disabilities may develop stress disorders related to their
exposure to this traumatic event. These children should be
referred to a mental health professional with appropriate
training in both stress disorders and cognitive disability.
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